Be True! Be You!

Would you like to connect more deeply to your true self and be more ‘you’? I believe this is what everyone wants, deep down.

I believe in continually discovering and expressing who I really am and I love empowering other people to do the same, so I’ve taken almost three decades of life experiences, meditation, self-development books, audio programmes and videos, and condensed them into 16 of the most important things that I’ve learned – and have helped me – along the way… Here’s the result:

Be True! Be You! Simple strategies the empower you to connect to the real you and live from a place of total authenticity.

In this book you will learn: how to connect to your true self; why everything is OK; how to meditate and breathe; the ‘1% rule’; how to deal with negative thoughts; how to be kind to yourself; how to get what you want; and more!


Poem: Darkness Turns to Light

When it dawns on you, this frightening terror,

And wherever you turn you’ll be making an error,

And it runs through your body and across your face,

You’ll be stumbling and falling, falling from grace.

Your calm goes out of the window – and door,

And what’s left are the bits of a big jigsaw

All laid out before you, and the stage is set

For self-destruction to leave you in a happiness debt.

Chaos is there with a front row seat,

Bringing you down, turning up the heat;

The fear is rising, it’s rearing its head,

And it’s bursting with pain, all angry and red.

It consumes you, takes over, and even though you try,

It’s all just too much so you do nothing but cry.

And you feel you’ve had more than enough,

You simply can’t carry any more stuff.

But what if it’s all just a challenge, a test,

And really it’s perfect when you thought it was messed?

What if it makes you much wiser and strong,

And everything was okay, all along?

What if you find the courage to let it be as it is,

And watch it drift past with a gentle fizz?

What if you realised your deepest pain,

Is the source of all you’d ever want to gain?

Imagine a world with no challenge in sight;

You’d never be happy, despite thinking you might.

Within all the pain, the hate and the doubt,

Is a joy that’s so strong, waiting to come out.

Know that it’s there – it’s always been inside you,

The answers are coming and soon you’ll feel new,

We’re always just right, wherever we are,

And you’ll shine bright once again, bright like a star!

Lights, camera, take action!

This is the first post of the re-launch of my blog and I’m excited to be back! I’ve been thinking for a while about the importance of this first post and I wanted to make it something that will captivate and inspire beyond belief. So here it is!

…Whilst struggling to think of the ‘perfect’ post, I learned an important lesson:

‘to begin, begin’ (from the aptly named William Wordsworth).

I learned that the first step is the most important – without it, nothing can happen. NOTHING! It sounds simple, but often the most profound things in life are. Over-thinking things usually isn’t productive!

So this post is my ‘first step’, my beginning, my way of setting the ball rolling. I don’t know precisely which direction the blog will head off in, but I know that I’ve now taken the step that makes all other steps possible. Knowing you’ve set yourself off on an amazing journey is extremely satisfying!

What’s your first step going to be today?

David x

Yoga is the future!

Yoga is my latest (although not particularly new in my life) passion; I’ve done it six times a week most weeks for the last while, and I’m reaping the benefits! I’d like to share my experiences with you.

First of all, yoga is definitely not “just stretching”! There are so many different types of yoga that it becomes hard to define. The best definition of the word that I can come up with (based on what I’ve read by experts and on my own experience) is that it means ‘union’ – it helps to unite me with the best version of myself!

Body-wise I tend to use yoga as an aerobic workout as well as strengthening and stretching. Most of the yoga I do is Kundalini and/or Hatha. Hatha is the most well-known (in the West at least) form and is based around holding particular poses and/or flowing between them. Kundalini is more of a spiritual yoga and helps to bring out your Kundalini – or life – energy.

The combination of these two types, I have found, offer me the following benefits:

  • Centring and grounding – I feel much more centred, grounded and calm, and an overall sense of peace and confidence.
  • Flexibility – my mind and body have become more flexible. It’s satisfying when I get deeper into poses than I’ve done in the past!
  • Strength – yoga uses the weight of the body in various positions to develop strength – this, combined with the flexibility that also comes with yoga, leaves my muscles feeling relaxed, strong, warm and supple.
  • Stress-relief – like any form of exercise, it’s a great way to release stress that’s held in the body.
  • Energy – I have more energy than I’ve had in the past, and a more constant energy. I tend not to have ‘lulls’ in energy in the afternoon – I have a good, even amount of energy to carry me through each day.
  • Authenticity – I feel more authentic because it’s one of my times to really connect with myself.
  • Achievement – when I’ve done one Kundalini workout in particular I feel a massive sense of pride – because it’s hard! You shouldn’t hurt yourself with yoga, but if you can challenge yourself to healthy levels, there’s a large dose of pride waiting for you at the end of your session!

I’ll be writing more about yoga in the future I’m sure, but that’s hopefully enough to inspire you to at least think about doing yoga if you don’t already!

David x


Regret is a very powerful emotion. It’s very easy to slip into varying degrees of “I wish X had happened” or “If only Y hadn’t” – and it’s easy to beat ourselves up with this and end up going round in circles. One strong branch that emanates from regret is control; we try and CONTROL the past. When we actually think about it, we know that we can’t control it. We know we can’t change the past event, but what we can control is how we see the event now.


Try and bring to the surface something that you feel regret about; it won’t take most people long – if it does, then this post might not be worth reading! Try and list all the positives to come out of the decision you made, or didn’t make. They might be really hard to spot but they’re in there. The first step in this exercise is the hardest – once you find one, others tend to follow more easily!


Another thing you could try is to do something about the past, now. Reframe it – think about it differently. Or use your sense of regret to propel you forward – like the principles I talked about in “Enough is Enough” ( Use the injustice you feel to inspire yourself to take action now.


Remember that everything decision you’ve ever made was based either on what you wanted at the time, what you thought was right at the time, or the result of the tools you had (or didn’t have) at that time, so try and forgive yourself in order to move forward.


Good luck!


David x

Enough is enough!

A quote I remember hearing sums up the last few weeks for me. Unfortunately, the quote I’d remembered came from the mouth of the biggest drugs cheat that sport has ever seen! So I’ve cleaned it, stripped the tainted Tour de France titles from it, and prepared it for your eyes!


“There comes a point in everyone’s life where they say ‘enough is enough’.”


That point has come for me over the last few weeks. A few weeks ago, the world gave me a two-week crash course in “This is everything that’s wrong with your life and why” in the form of depression. Since that fortnight (which, at the time, felt like anything but a blessing), I have generally been on an upward curve. This was probably around the tenth bad episode I’ve had over the last six years or so, and it will be the last. I decided – I think a short while after I began to climb up from the depths this last time – that enough was enough, and that I was going to do whatever it takes to make myself happy. There was so much that each episode has taught me, but this one was slightly different. This one seemed to teach me all the lessons I’d learned from the previous ones, and more! It also importantly, and probably as a result of the severity and breadth of this one, made me decide that I’m finally going to do something about the messages each episode had given me.


The messages the depression had for me this time are irrelevant to the main point of this post, but I’ll write the main one anyway: I have to stop searching outside yourself for the answers and for happiness – only I can make myself happy. After having wrote it just now, it seems so obvious, almost silly. But I know that this is the most important realisation I’ve had in my life – I’d always known it, but never really realised it before. (There’s a big different between knowing something and realising it.)


Back to the main point: enough was enough. The time had finally come to make myself happy. In the last few weeks, the transformation I feel inside me is huge! I’ve managed to do everything that I know helps me be happy (yoga, meditation, and doing huge courage if I notice the demons coming back) and, more importantly, I’ve stuck to it. In the past I’d do a bit here, and a bit there. But I’ve realised that I have to do these things every day – and I have.


Where in your life could you say “enough is enough” and start making the changes you need to make in order to make yourself happy?


David x

Be kind to yourself!

Self-compassion is one of the most important tools I’ve recently learned – it’s taken 26 years but it’s been worth the wait. It’s taken sheds full of beating myself up to get there, but I’m on the self-compassion path now! The more compassion I show myself, the more I realise I could’ve provided all the props for the book Fifty Sheds of Grey – as long as they required sheds that were full of self-abuse, self-sabotage, and self-loathing! The reason I’m only just realising how hard I’d been on myself now is two-fold: firstly, I’m on the other side of the self-loathing now (or, at least, on the journey to the other side), and, secondly, the stream of negative thoughts was so constant, so engrained in my behaviour, that I just assumed that ‘that’s how things are’ and it would be impossible to change.

I see compassion as ‘active sympathy’ – taking action to try to soothe and understand a part of you or a situation you’re going through. Here are my tips to help you start, or continue, being kind to yourself:

  • Imagine someone talking to you the way you talk to yourself (when it’s negative); would you want them in your life?
  • Imagine that whatever you’re going through, your best friend or a family member is also going through. Would you talk to yourself the same way as you talk to yourself about what you’re experiencing?
  • Judgements and negative generalisations are a large part of being hard on yourself; we judge ourselves for so many things. We are ‘a failure’, or ‘a bad person’, we ‘should be slim’, ‘should (or shouldn’t) have said X, Y or Z’ or ‘shouldn’t be feeling like this’, etc etc – the list is endless! Notice the use of ‘should’ too – there’s no ‘should’! There’s no set way to live your life – you determine it. And remember, if it’s in the past, you did exactly what you could at the time, with the knowledge and emotional intelligence of that moment. Experience is something we get immediately after we need it, so you did the best you could at the time.
  • I mentioned negative generalisations; it’s important to recognise where you generalise things. As the saying goes, the only things that are inevitable are death and taxes. So if, for example, you have a recurring thought/belief that you are ‘a failure’ this implies that you are ALWAYS a failure. It also depends on your definition of a ‘failure’. There are also varying degrees of ‘failure’. My point is that the belief isn’t ALWAYS true; try to focus on the (sometimes tiny) evidence that the belief isn’t true.
  • Remember you’re doing the best you can. If you’re feeling overwhelmed it’s probably a build up of loads of things over time that have caught up with you – so feeling this way is not a sign that you’re weak, it’s a sign that you’ve just dealt with way too much than you can cope with.
  • Give yourself a break! Being kind to yourself on the inside is definitely the most important kind of compassion, but it doesn’t hurt to spoil yourself once in a while. You could get a massage, for example; just do something that you love doing that’ll reward you for all you’ve been through.
  • Take it slowly; if you’ve been beating yourself up about something (or everything) for a long time, just gradually ease in the compassion – don’t expect yourself to be able to instantly be kind to yourself about everything, just notice little victories and focus on them – they’ll soon turn into massive wins!

Go on – be kind to yourself!

David x